Relationships with Non-Christians? Right or wrong?

Moderator Posts : 43 Join date : 2008-02-04 Age : 43

Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How can goodness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?
2 Corinthians 6:14 (NLT)

The issue for the believer today is the same as it was when this verse was written. There is a great danger that we take when we intentionally team up with those who are not Christian. Imagine this scenario: you are standing on a chair (or sturdy table) and your teenage child is standing on the floor. Which of the following is easier to do, pull your teenage child up onto the chair/table with you or your teenage child pulling you down to the floor? Obviously, it is the teenagerasgravity is on their side. You have to overcome gravity and be strong enough to pull the teenager (fighting and screaming) up onto the chair with you. Sure, you might be able to do it but there will be a definite struggle and perhaps you both may fall to the floor and wind up getting hurt and wind up in a lower position that you both started. It is (can be) very similar in our Christian walk. We must not intentionally enter into a relationship with an unbeliever. You are probably thinking, “define relationship”. In reality, it could be any relationship. Whether work, friend, romantic, business partner, and so on. An examplewould be putting ourselves in a position that allows for the lifestyle of the unbeliever to be a greater influence or attraction than need be. But how are we to witness to them? This verse does not say that we should not witness to them. It means that we shouldnot enter into binding or obligatory relationships. We should so regard the work that God is doing in us that we are unwilling to enter into any kind of “dependent” or “permanent” relationship so that we cannot be influenced or deceived by a worldly attitude.1 Corinthians 15:33 says it very clearly, “Do not be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals”.

1. it's fine to be friends with a non-christian. but we should make sure that we are the good influence on them and that they don't influence us. also, we have to be able to witness to them through that friendship.

2. it's not right to have a gf/bf who's a non christian. first of all, it says in the bible that it's not right. does anything else have to be said about that?!? LOL! Very Happy

pero cge...
question...
does that mean that just because the guy's a christian and the girl is also a christian... they can be in a relationship?!?

haha!

WAHAHAHAHAHAHHA

kung may gus2 kang tao na non - christian

cguro the best way is

kaibiganin mo...introduce Jesus Christ

pag tinanggap nya well good for you

f not kaibganin mo p dn

and pray for him / her

sana naman wag lng sa taong gus2 mo gwin yan

^_^

remember we are fishers of men

what is it with a christian that a non-christian doesn't have when it comes to a relationship?
i mean with the gf/bf thingy?

^KarL^ wrote:: WAHAHAHAHAHAHHA

kung may gus2 kang tao na non - christian

cguro the best way is

kaibiganin mo...introduce Jesus Christ

pag tinanggap nya well good for you

f not kaibganin mo p dn

and pray for him / her

sana naman wag lng sa taong gus2 mo gwin yan

^_^

remember we are fishers of men

nice suggestion!!!
LOL.
Tama...

pero don't force someone to be a christian just because u like him/her...

elyofdox wrote:: what is it with a christian that a non-christian doesn't have when it comes to a relationship?
i mean with the gf/bf thingy?

a non- christian doesn't have Jesus.
That's the main difference!
and Jesus always has to be in the center of a relationship...

Very Happy

Moderator Posts : 43 Join date : 2008-02-04 Age : 43

And there will always be conflicts because both parties have different perspective or belief. When marriage comes, both sides will fight for religion they should celebrate their wedding ceremony. Paano kung yun isang side INC and other side christian.... Usually mananalo yun INC kc kelangan magpasakop ka dun. iiwanan mo nalang yun christianity para sumama lang sa mahal mo. Kung sumama naman sayo yun mahal mo sa pagiging christian, at naging christian din, conflict naman sa family niya. Mahirap, kc for example sa cousin ko yung mom ng mga conseulo girls INC siya before. Then both she and her husband accepted Jesus and nagsisimba na satin. Hanggang ngayon kinukulit parin siya ng family niya na bumalik na sa pagiging INC. Yun ba, sobrang malaking factor talaga. Yan parehas na silang christian pero family nila nagkakaconflict pa. Kaya yun....

huh..
yah the things you all said are correct..
but..
the important thing is that you love each other..
y not..

khaizer-II wrote:: huh..
yah the things you all said are correct..
but..
the important thing is that you love each other..
y not..

basta for me...
dapat both of you are christians...

bakit ivan?
di xa christian?!?

ang usapang beliefs ay

matinding usapin

e2 ang labanan ng paninindigan

theres no wrong and right

coz its your belief

coz its your faith to your belief

^_^

Moderator Posts : 43 Join date : 2008-02-04 Age : 43

Well, all of us have free will to choose of what's best for us Wink

But every choice has it's own consequence whether it is good or bad Smile

Most of the time we realize it when we've already done it or in to it cheers

ahm..
pero for me bastah mahal nyo isat isa
kahit anu barrier pa yan mabbreak din yan...

of course we as christians have to make the way..

Anna, Christian siya pero hindi ganun ka active and Onfire like us.. Sad

^KarL^ wrote:: ang usapang beliefs ay

matinding usapin

e2 ang labanan ng paninindigan

theres no wrong and right

coz its your belief

coz its your faith to your belief

^_^

*ditto*
i was gonna say that...

ivan, at least christian xa...
go for it!
Very Happy

but sometmes pasaway pa din kahit Christian sya...
watya think?

yup i agree with that!!

pasaway dn ang christians

why? kz we are born to be sinners

lolx

actually may point c ivan

depende n s tao qng papano nila pagkakasunduan ang religion

the question kz dun sa 2 lovers in the end is

"saan tau magpapakasal" on w/c side?

in w/c religion are we on to?

tama dba?

kz nga dba the main objectives why we look for

an opposite sex relationship

is to have a partner?

so it will end up to be

in the marriage

harharhar

dont worry guys!

nung HS aq sawang sawa aq sa mga ganyang SERMON!!

NO BOY AND GIRL LOVE RELATIONSHIP

^KarL^ wrote:: yup i agree with that!!

pasaway dn ang christians

why? kz we are born to be sinners

lolx

actually may point c ivan

depende n s tao qng papano nila pagkakasunduan ang religion

the question kz dun sa 2 lovers in the end is

"saan tau magpapakasal" on w/c side?

in w/c religion are we on to?

tama dba?

wait! kasalan agad?
i'm just asking kung pano kung ung partner mo christian nga pero hindi maganda ung ugali lalo na wn it comes to handling a relationship...
ung tipong mas ok pa ung non-christian?
kasi i was thinking,
it will all boil down to the person, kung mabait talaga siyang tunay eh...
regardless of whether the person is a christian or not...

elyofdox wrote:

^KarL^ wrote:: yup i agree with that!!

pasaway dn ang christians

why? kz we are born to be sinners

lolx

actually may point c ivan

depende n s tao qng papano nila pagkakasunduan ang religion

the question kz dun sa 2 lovers in the end is

"saan tau magpapakasal" on w/c side?

in w/c religion are we on to?

tama dba?

wait! kasalan agad?
i'm just asking kung pano kung ung partner mo christian nga pero hindi maganda ung ugali lalo na wn it comes to handling a relationship...
ung tipong mas ok pa ung non-christian?
kasi i was thinking,
it will all boil down to the person, kung mabait talaga siyang tunay eh...
regardless of whether the person is a christian or not...

why would u date someone na masama yung ugali?!?

anyway...basta...

mas maganda kung christian...

pero kung wala...

eh di non christian nalang!

lol!

Moderator Posts : 43 Join date : 2008-02-04 Age : 43

Sa bagay may point ka... hindi purket christian e ok na talaga. It depends parin kung magkakasundo kayo sa ugali. Dito papasok yung acceptance sa bawat isa and willing magbago kung anu mang ugali meron ang isa't-isa. Kung hindi talaga kayang pakisamahan yun ugali, edi it's time for you to turn down muna yun relationship and wait for God to give you the best person. Nobodys perfect and all of us are still in the process. God is our potter and He will be the one to mold us. You can't change the person but if you really love the person, pray for him that God will change him and you also. Kahit saan yan whether christian or non-christian may maeencounter kang ayaw mo talaga sa person. Because all of us have different weaknesses, strengths, kind of living, upbringing, and personalities.
Let's just trust God to move and be the center of the relationship. Both boy & girl should agree that they are still in the process. There are times na matagal talaga magbago. Patience and forgiving is the key for these. Help the person to grow and realize there own mistakes and let them learn. Give them time to learn... Minsan kase we want abrupt change, but we need to remember that we are not the ones who will change the person, we will only help. L.Q. are the times when both differences clash. But it is also the opportunity for both to learn and grow from it. It depends on how they handle their problems. Are they willing to face the change or are they gonna give up nalang.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, It is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Cor. 13:4-7